{"id":20547,"date":"2026-06-02T09:28:45","date_gmt":"2026-06-02T09:28:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/akdenizolay.com.tr\/index.php\/2026\/06\/02\/ebeveynlikte-sevgi-ve-kontrol-dengesine-dikkat\/"},"modified":"2026-06-02T09:28:45","modified_gmt":"2026-06-02T09:28:45","slug":"ebeveynlikte-sevgi-ve-kontrol-dengesine-dikkat","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/akdenizolay.com.tr\/index.php\/2026\/06\/02\/ebeveynlikte-sevgi-ve-kontrol-dengesine-dikkat\/","title":{"rendered":"Ebeveynlikte sevgi ve kontrol dengesine dikkat!"},"content":{"rendered":"

G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz ebeveynlik anlay\u0131\u015f\u0131nda sevgi ile kontrol aras\u0131ndaki ince \u00e7izgi zaman zaman belirsizle\u015febiliyor. \u00d6zellikle, iyi niyetle sergilenen a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 koruyucu ve m\u00fcdahaleci tutumlar, literat\u00fcrde \u2018Helikopter Ebeveynlik\u2019 olarak adland\u0131r\u0131lan ve \u00e7ocu\u011fun \u00f6zerkli\u011fini k\u0131s\u0131tlayan bir modele d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febiliyor.\u00a0Ac\u0131badem Kartal Hastanesi\u2019nden Klinik Psikolog Ay\u015fe Ece Tezcan<\/strong>, \u201cBir helikopter gibi \u00e7ocu\u011fun \u00fczerinde s\u00fcrekli d\u00f6nen, her an m\u00fcdahaleye haz\u0131r bu model, \u00e7ocukta \u00f6zg\u00fcven zedelenmesine ve problem \u00e7\u00f6zme becerilerinin geli\u015fememesine yol a\u00e7abiliyor. Bilimsel \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar, bu tutumun ilerleyen ya\u015flarda kayg\u0131 bozukluklar\u0131, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fck ya\u015fam doyumu ve depresyonla ile ili\u015fkili oldu\u011funu g\u00f6steriyor\u201d diyor.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Ebeveynlerin \u2018ben yemiyorum yediriyorum\u2019 \u015feklinde tan\u0131mlad\u0131\u011f\u0131 s\u00fcreci \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n \u2018cam\u00a0fanusta ya\u015famak”, ergenlerin ise “nefes alamamak” \u015feklinde hissettiklerini belirten Tezcan, \u00e7ocuk yeti\u015ftirmede en kapsay\u0131c\u0131 y\u00f6ntemin \u2018Rehber Ebeveynlik\u2019 oldu\u011funu, bu y\u00f6ntemin \u00e7ocu\u011fa alan tan\u0131yan, hata yapmas\u0131na izin veren ancak gerekti\u011finde destek sunan dengeli bir yakla\u015f\u0131m oldu\u011funu vurguluyor.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Klinik Psikolog Ay\u015fe Ece Tezcan, helikopter ebeveyn olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 anlaman\u0131za yard\u0131mc\u0131 olacak 10 soruluk test haz\u0131rlad\u0131. Bu testin \u2018ebeveynlik tarz\u0131n\u0131zdaki m\u00fcdahalecilik d\u00fczeyini anlaman\u0131za yard\u0131mc\u0131 olacak fark\u0131ndal\u0131k sorular\u0131ndan\u2019 olu\u015ftu\u011funun alt\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7izen Tezcan \u201cBu sorular klinik bir te\u015fhis niteli\u011fi ta\u015f\u0131may\u0131p, sadece \u00f6z-g\u00f6zlem yapman\u0131z i\u00e7in birer g\u00f6stergedir\u201d diyor. \u0130\u015fte 10 soruda fark\u0131ndal\u0131k testi ve Klinik Psikolog Tezcan\u2019dan \u00f6nemli uyar\u0131lar, \u00f6neriler\u2026\u00a0<\/p>\n

1. \u00d6devlerde \u2018Biz\u2019 dilini mi kullan\u0131yorsunuz?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

“Bug\u00fcn \u00f6devimizi yapt\u0131k\u201d diyerek sorumlulu\u011fu \u00fcstlenmek, \u00e7ocu\u011fun bireysel ba\u015far\u0131 duygusunu elinden alabilir.\u00a0\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

2. Akran \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131na an\u0131nda m\u00fcdahale mi ediyorsunuz? \u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/strong>\u00c7\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fc onun yerine bulmak, sosyal kayg\u0131ya ve problem \u00e7\u00f6zme becerisi eksikli\u011fine yol a\u00e7abilir.<\/p>\n

3. Okul s\u00fcre\u00e7lerini a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 m\u0131 denetliyorsunuz?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

S\u00fcrekli denetlenen \u00e7ocuk, sorumlulu\u011fu i\u00e7selle\u015ftirmekte zorlan\u0131r<\/p>\n

\u00a04. Ev i\u015flerinde \u2018k\u0131yamay\u0131p\u2019 her \u015feyi siz mi yap\u0131yorsunuz?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ya\u015f\u0131na uygun sorumluluk almayan \u00e7ocuklarda, beceriklilik duygusu geli\u015femez.\u00a0\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

5. Karar mekanizmas\u0131 tamamen sizde mi?\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/strong>Kurslardan k\u0131yafet se\u00e7imine kadar her \u015feyi siz se\u00e7iyorsan\u0131z, \u00e7ocukta \u2018karar felci\u2019 ve kimlik karma\u015fas\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fclebilir.\u00a0<\/p>\n

\u00a06. Hata yapma ihtimali sizi kayg\u0131land\u0131r\u0131yor mu?\u00a0\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00c7ocu\u011fun ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z olmas\u0131na tahamm\u00fcl edememek, ileride m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7ilik ve y\u00fcksek kayg\u0131 d\u00fczeyini tetikleyebilir.\u00a0<\/p>\n

\u00a07. S\u00fcrekli fiziksel g\u00fcvenlik endi\u015fesi mi ta\u015f\u0131yorsunuz? \u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Parkta her saniye m\u00fcdahale etmek, d\u00fcnyay\u0131 \u2018ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131k\u0131lamaz bir yer\u2019 olarak alg\u0131lamas\u0131na neden olabilir.\u00a0<\/p>\n

\u00a08. Onun yerine \u00f6z\u00fcr m\u00fc diliyorsunuz?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/strong>\u00c7ocu\u011fun hatalar\u0131n\u0131n sorumlulu\u011funu \u00fcstlenmek, empati ve vicdani geli\u015fim s\u00fcre\u00e7lerini aksatabilir.\u00a0<\/p>\n

\u00a09. \u00d6zel alan s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 ihlal mi ediyorsunuz?\u00a0\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

G\u00fcnl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc okumak veya odas\u0131na kap\u0131y\u0131 \u00e7almadan girmek, sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 s\u0131n\u0131r \u00e7izme becerisine zarar verebilir.<\/p>\n

10. Kendi hayat\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 tamamen ihmal mi ettiniz?\u00a0<\/strong>\u00a0<\/p>\n

Tek odak noktas\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7ocuk olmas\u0131, hem ebeveynde t\u00fckenmi\u015fli\u011fe hem de \u00e7ocukta ayr\u0131\u015fma-bireyle\u015fme sanc\u0131lar\u0131na neden olabilir.\u00a0<\/p>\n

xxxxxxxx Kutu Bilgisi xxxxxxx<\/strong><\/p>\n

Test sonu\u00e7lar\u0131 ne diyor?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00a0Klinik Psikolog Ece Tezcan\u00a0<\/strong>\u201cBu sorulara \u2018Evet\u2019 yan\u0131tlar\u0131n\u0131n yo\u011funlu\u011fu, ebeveynlik tarz\u0131n\u0131zdaki korumac\u0131 tutumun artt\u0131\u011f\u0131na i\u015faret eder. Unutmay\u0131n, yollar i\u00e7in haz\u0131rlanm\u0131\u015f \u00e7ocuklar yeti\u015ftirmek, \u00e7ocuklar i\u00e7in haz\u0131rlanm\u0131\u015f yollar in\u015fa etmekten \u00e7ok daha k\u0131ymetlidir. \u00a0<\/p>\n

Kanatlar\u0131n\u0131 siz \u00e7\u0131rparsan\u0131z, o u\u00e7may\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenemez\u201d diyor.\u00a0<\/p>\n

xxxxxxxxx Kutu Bilgisi xxxxxxxxx<\/strong><\/p>\n

Rehber ebeveynlerin 6 \u00f6nemli \u00f6zelli\u011fi:<\/strong><\/p>\n

Klinik Psikolog Ece Tezcan<\/strong>, \u201cNe a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 kontrol, ne s\u0131n\u0131rs\u0131z \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck! \u00c7ocuk geli\u015fiminde destekleyici y\u00f6ntem rehber ebeveynliktir\u201d diyerek, rehber ebeveynli\u011fin 6 temel \u00f6zelli\u011fini \u00a0\u015f\u00f6yle s\u0131ral\u0131yor;<\/p>\n

1. \u00c7ocu\u011fa ya\u015f\u0131na uygun se\u00e7im hakk\u0131 tan\u0131r.<\/p>\n

2. Davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131na tutarl\u0131 ve a\u00e7\u0131klanabilir s\u0131n\u0131rlar koyar ve bunlar\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131klar.<\/p>\n

3. \u00c7ocu\u011fun duygular\u0131n\u0131 ge\u00e7erli kabul eder ve adland\u0131rmas\u0131na yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur.<\/p>\n

4. Problemlerini kendisi \u00e7\u00f6zmek yerine, \u00e7ocu\u011fun \u00e7\u00f6zebilmesi i\u00e7in onu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeye ve karar vermeye te\u015fvik eder.\u00a0<\/p>\n

5. Ba\u015far\u0131dan ziyade \u00e7abaya ve s\u00fcrece odaklan\u0131r.\u00a0<\/p>\n

6. \u00c7ocu\u011fun hatalar\u0131ndan ders \u00e7\u0131karmas\u0131n\u0131 ve kendi ba\u015f\u0131na ba\u015farma deneyimini destekler.\u00a0<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/p>\n

Kaynak: (BYZHA) Beyaz Haber Ajans\u0131<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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