\u00dcsk\u00fcdar \u00dcniversitesi NP\u0130STANBUL Hastanesi Klinik Psikolog Gizem Karpat, insanlar\u0131n kendilerini korumak i\u00e7in fark\u0131nda olmadan ger\u00e7ekleri \u00e7arp\u0131tmas\u0131na neden olan \u00f6z-yalan mekanizmas\u0131, bu durumun belirtileri ve bu d\u00f6ng\u00fcden \u00e7\u0131kman\u0131n yollar\u0131 hakk\u0131nda a\u00e7\u0131klamalarda bulundu.<\/p>\n
\u00d6z-yalan, k\u0131sa vadede zihni rahatlatsa da uzun vadede sorunlar\u0131n \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcn\u00fc geciktirebilir!<\/strong><\/p>\n Ki\u015finin kendine yalan s\u00f6ylemesi durumunun psikolojide “\u00f6z-yalan” (self-deception) kavram\u0131 \u00e7er\u00e7evesinde ele al\u0131nd\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ifade eden\u00a0Gizem Karpat, \u201c\u00d6z-yalan; bireyin kayg\u0131, su\u00e7luluk, hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ya da ac\u0131 verici ger\u00e7eklerle ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kabilmek i\u00e7in baz\u0131 durumlar\u0131 fark\u0131nda olmadan \u00e7arp\u0131tmas\u0131 veya g\u00f6rmezden gelmesidir.\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n Amac\u0131n, d\u0131\u015f d\u00fcnyadaki birilerini aldatmak de\u011fil; ki\u015finin kendi psikolojik dengesini ve b\u00fct\u00fcnl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc korumaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmas\u0131 oldu\u011funu aktaran Karpat, \u201cK\u0131sa vadede zihni rahatlatan bir amortis\u00f6r g\u00f6revi g\u00f6rse de uzun vadede sorunlar\u0131n ger\u00e7ek\u00e7i bir \u015fekilde \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fclmesini geciktiren bir yap\u0131ya b\u00fcr\u00fcnebilir.\u201d diye konu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n \u00d6z-yalanda ilk aldat\u0131lan, ki\u015finin kendisi olur!<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00d6z-yalan ile bilin\u00e7li ink\u00e2r aras\u0131ndaki en kritik fark\u0131n, fark\u0131ndal\u0131k d\u00fczeyinde sakl\u0131 oldu\u011funu dile getiren Gizem Karpat, \u015funlar\u0131 s\u00f6yledi:<\/p>\n \u201c\u00d6z-yalan s\u00fcre\u00e7lerinde\u00a0ki\u015fi ger\u00e7e\u011fi tam olarak fark etmeden kendisini farkl\u0131, daha katlan\u0131labilir bir ger\u00e7ekli\u011fe inand\u0131r\u0131r. Yani ilk aldat\u0131lan ki\u015finin kendisi oldu\u011fu bir s\u00fcre\u00e7 i\u015fler. Bilin\u00e7li ink\u00e2rda ise\u00a0ki\u015fi asl\u0131nda ger\u00e7e\u011fin gayet fark\u0131ndad\u0131r; ancak ego b\u00fct\u00fcnl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc korumak ad\u0131na onu kabul etmek istemez ya da d\u0131\u015f d\u00fcnyaya ifade etmekten ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131r. Birinde fark\u0131ndal\u0131k olduk\u00e7a s\u0131n\u0131rl\u0131yken, di\u011ferinde ger\u00e7e\u011fi bilmesine ra\u011fmen ondan uzak durma \u00e7abas\u0131 daha belirgindir. \u00d6z\u00fcnde her iki s\u00fcre\u00e7 de ki\u015finin zorlay\u0131c\u0131 duygularla ba\u015f etme giri\u015fimidir.\u201d<\/p>\n \u0130nsan zihni, psikolojik b\u00fct\u00fcnl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc korumak i\u00e7in ger\u00e7ekleri \u00e7arp\u0131tabilir!\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n \u0130nsanlar neden ger\u00e7ekleri kendilerine \u00e7arp\u0131tma ihtiyac\u0131 duyduklar\u0131 hakk\u0131nda bilgi veren Karpat, \u201c\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc insan zihni yaln\u0131zca saf do\u011fruyu kaydetmek i\u00e7in de\u011fil, ayn\u0131 zamanda\u00a0psikolojik b\u00fct\u00fcnl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc ve konforunu korumak\u00a0i\u00e7in de \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r.\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n Bazen bir ger\u00e7e\u011fi oldu\u011fu gibi kabul etmenin b\u00fcy\u00fck bir kay\u0131p, ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131k, reddedilme veya a\u011f\u0131r bir su\u00e7luluk duygusuyla y\u00fczle\u015fmeyi gerektirdi\u011fine i\u015faret eden Karpat, \u201cZihin bu duygusal y\u00fck\u00fc azaltmak i\u00e7in ger\u00e7e\u011fi b\u00fckerek oldu\u011fundan farkl\u0131 yorumlayabilir. Biz buna psikolojide\u00a0bili\u015fsel \u00e7eli\u015fkiyi\u00a0azaltma \u00e7abas\u0131 da deriz. Bu mekanizma akut d\u00f6nemlerde koruyucu bir kalkan olabilir; fakat kronikle\u015fti\u011finde ki\u015finin sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 kararlar almas\u0131n\u0131 ve ger\u00e7ek\u00e7i de\u011ferlendirmeler yapmas\u0131n\u0131 ciddi \u015fekilde zorla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r.\u201d a\u00e7\u0131klamas\u0131n\u0131 yapt\u0131.<\/p>\n Baz\u0131 insanlar, kendi kurgulad\u0131klar\u0131 yeni ger\u00e7e\u011fe samimiyetle inan\u0131r!\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Ki\u015finin kendine yalan s\u00f6yledi\u011fini fark edip edememesinin ki\u015fiden ki\u015fiye ve savunma mekanizmalar\u0131n\u0131n g\u00fcc\u00fcne g\u00f6re de\u011fi\u015fti\u011fini vurgulayan Gizem Karpat, \u201cBaz\u0131 insanlar ger\u00e7e\u011fi bilin\u00e7li bir \u015fekilde hal\u0131n\u0131n alt\u0131na s\u00fcp\u00fcrd\u00fcklerinin ve g\u00f6rmezden geldiklerinin fark\u0131ndad\u0131r. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 ise bunu b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcde\u00a0bilin\u00e7d\u0131\u015f\u0131 bir s\u00fcre\u00e7\u00a0olarak ya\u015far ve kendi kurgulad\u0131klar\u0131 o yeni ger\u00e7e\u011fe samimiyetle inan\u0131rlar.\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n Ancak bunun mutlak bir k\u00f6rl\u00fck olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 dile getiren Karpat, \u201cAyn\u0131 konu her a\u00e7\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda i\u00e7sel bir huzursuzluk ve yo\u011fun bir rahats\u0131zl\u0131k hissetmek, \u00e7evreye s\u00fcrekli benzer ve abart\u0131l\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131klamalar yapma ihtiyac\u0131 duymak, zihnin arkalar\u0131nda bir yerde \u2018ka\u00e7\u0131lan bir ger\u00e7ek\u2019 oldu\u011funa dair b\u0131rakt\u0131\u011f\u0131 ayak izleridir.\u201d ifadelerini kulland\u0131.<\/p>\n Belirgin sorunlara ra\u011fmen \u2018sorunum yok’ demek, ink\u00e2r mekanizmas\u0131n\u0131n i\u015fareti olabilir!\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n \u2018Ben iyiyim\u2019, \u2018benim bir sorunum yok\u2019 gibi ifadelerin tek ba\u015f\u0131na do\u011frudan bir ink\u00e2r mekanizmas\u0131 anlam\u0131na gelmedi\u011fine de\u011finen Karpat, s\u00f6zlerini \u015f\u00f6yle s\u00fcrd\u00fcrd\u00fc:<\/p>\n \u201cBazen ki\u015fi ger\u00e7ekten kendisini iyi hissediyordur. Ancak ortada ciddi bir kay\u0131p, travma veya belirgin ruhsal\/fiziksel belirtiler varken ve hatta \u00e7evresindeki bir\u00e7ok ki\u015fi ayn\u0131 konuda ciddi bir endi\u015fe duyuyorken ki\u015finin \u0131srarla ve kat\u0131 bir \u015fekilde\u00a0\u2018benim hi\u00e7bir sorunum yok\u2019 demesi, ink\u00e2r mekanizmas\u0131n\u0131n devrede olabilece\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcr\u00fcr. Burada klinik olarak bizim bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u015fey yaln\u0131zca s\u00f6ylenen c\u00fcmle de\u011fil; ki\u015finin davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131, ya\u015fam i\u015flevselli\u011fi, bedensel tepkileri ve duygusal d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131n b\u00fct\u00fcn\u00fc aras\u0131ndaki tutarl\u0131l\u0131kt\u0131r.\u201d<\/p>\n \u00d6z-yalan\u0131n en \u00f6nemli g\u00f6stergesi, s\u00f6ylenenlerle ya\u015fananlar\u0131n birbiriyle \u00f6rt\u00fc\u015fmemesi!<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00d6z-yalan\u0131n ya\u015fam\u0131n hemen her alan\u0131nda filizlenebilece\u011fini aktaran Karpat, \u201cAncak klinikte en s\u0131k kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z alanlar;\u00a0ili\u015fkiler, duygusal ihtiya\u00e7lar, sa\u011fl\u0131kla ilgili al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131klar ve i\u015f hayat\u0131d\u0131r.\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n \u2018Bu ili\u015fki beni asl\u0131nda hi\u00e7 \u00fczm\u00fcyor\u2019, \u2018o sadece biraz gergin\u2019, \u2018i\u015fimden \u00e7ok memnunum, t\u00fckenmi\u015f hissetmiyorum\u2019, \u2018bu zararl\u0131 al\u0131\u015fkanl\u0131\u011f\u0131 istersem yar\u0131n b\u0131rak\u0131r\u0131m, beni etkilemiyor\u2019 gibi kal\u0131pla\u015fm\u0131\u015f ifadelerin, zorlay\u0131c\u0131 ger\u00e7eklerle y\u00fczle\u015fmeyi erteleyen klasik s\u00f6ylemler oldu\u011funu belirten Karpat, bu noktada en \u00f6nemli turnusol ka\u011f\u0131d\u0131n\u0131n; ki\u015finin s\u00f6zleri ile ya\u015fam\u0131ndaki ger\u00e7ek deneyimlerinin ne kadar \u00f6rt\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fcd\u00fcr.\u201d \u015feklinde konu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n Ayn\u0131 sorunlar\u0131 tekrar tekrar ya\u015f\u0131yorsan\u0131z, bunun nedeni kendinize s\u00f6yledi\u011finiz bir \u00f6z-yalan olabilir!\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Ki\u015finin kendine yalan s\u00f6yledi\u011fini fark edebilmesinin ilk ve en \u00f6nemli ad\u0131m\u0131n\u0131n, cesaretle kendine \u2018S\u00f6ylediklerim ile ger\u00e7ekten ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131m birbiriyle uyumlu mu?\u2019 sorusunu sorabilmesi oldu\u011funa dikkat \u00e7eken Gizem Karpat, \u201cE\u011fer hayat\u0131n\u0131zda ayn\u0131 sorunlar farkl\u0131 insanlarla tekrar ediyor, benzer hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131klar\u0131 kronik bir d\u00f6ng\u00fcye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcyor veya kendinizi s\u00fcrekli birilerine hakl\u0131 oldu\u011funuzu kan\u0131tlamak i\u00e7in ayn\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131klamalar\u0131 yaparken buluyorsan\u0131z, orada d\u00fcr\u00fcst\u00e7e masaya yat\u0131r\u0131lmas\u0131 gereken bir \u00f6z-yalan olabilir.\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n Karpat, yak\u0131n \u00e7evreden gelen yap\u0131c\u0131 geri bildirimlere kulak t\u0131kamamak ve hissedilen olumsuz duygular\u0131 bast\u0131rmak yerine onlar\u0131 anlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fman\u0131n \u00f6z fark\u0131ndal\u0131\u011f\u0131 art\u0131ran en \u00f6nemli ad\u0131m oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n Kendine d\u00fcr\u00fcst olmak zamanla geli\u015ftirilebilen ve pratik edilen bir psikolojik beceridir!\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Kendine d\u00fcr\u00fcst olmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenmenin m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011funu dile getiren Karpat, \u201cKendine d\u00fcr\u00fcst olmak zamanla geli\u015ftirilebilen ve pratik edilen bir\u00a0psikolojik beceridir.\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n Karpat, bu konudaki \u00f6nerilerini s\u0131ralayarak s\u00f6zlerini \u015f\u00f6yle tamamlad\u0131:<\/p>\n \u201cYarg\u0131lamayan fark\u0131ndal\u0131\u011f\u0131n temelinde, ki\u015finin kendi duygular\u0131n\u0131 (korku, k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k, ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131k gibi kabul\u00fc zor duygular\u0131 bile) su\u00e7luluk hissetmeden, \u015fefkatle fark etmeyi \u00f6\u011frenmesi yer al\u0131r. E\u011fer kendimizi \u00e7ok sert yarg\u0131larsak, zihnimiz bizi korumak i\u00e7in daha \u00e7ok yalan \u00fcretecektir. Yazarak i\u00e7 d\u00f6kme, g\u00fcnl\u00fck tutma gibi y\u00f6ntemlerle d\u00fczenli \u00f6z de\u011ferlendirme yapmak, duygu ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceleri filtresiz bir \u015fekilde ka\u011f\u0131da d\u00f6kmek zihinsel b\u00fck\u00fclmeleri g\u00f6rmeyi kolayla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r.<\/p>\n Ger\u00e7eklerle y\u00fczle\u015fmek her zaman kolay de\u011fildir ve insan\u0131n kendi k\u00f6r noktalar\u0131n\u0131 tek ba\u015f\u0131na g\u00f6rmesi bazen \u00e7ok zor olabilir. Psikoterapi, ki\u015finin yaln\u0131zca ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc de\u011fil, neden o \u015fekilde d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeye ihtiya\u00e7 duydu\u011funu g\u00fcvenli bir ba\u011flamda anlamas\u0131na yard\u0131mc\u0131 olur. Unutmamak gerekir ki kendine d\u00fcr\u00fcst olmak k\u0131sa vadede konforu bozsa da uzun vadede psikolojik sa\u011flaml\u0131\u011f\u0131n ve iyi olu\u015fun en temel yap\u0131 ta\u015f\u0131d\u0131r.\u201d<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Kaynak: (BYZHA) Beyaz Haber Ajans\u0131<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u00dcsk\u00fcdar \u00dcniversitesi NP\u0130STANBUL Hastanesi Klinik Psikolog Gizem Karpat, insanlar\u0131n kendilerini korumak i\u00e7in fark\u0131nda olmadan ger\u00e7ekleri \u00e7arp\u0131tmas\u0131na neden olan \u00f6z-yalan mekanizmas\u0131, bu durumun belirtileri ve bu d\u00f6ng\u00fcden \u00e7\u0131kman\u0131n yollar\u0131 hakk\u0131nda a\u00e7\u0131klamalarda bulundu.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":24571,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[23],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-24570","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-saglik"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/akdenizolay.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/24570","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/akdenizolay.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/akdenizolay.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/akdenizolay.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/akdenizolay.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=24570"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/akdenizolay.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/24570\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":24572,"href":"https:\/\/akdenizolay.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/24570\/revisions\/24572"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/akdenizolay.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/24571"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/akdenizolay.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=24570"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/akdenizolay.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=24570"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/akdenizolay.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=24570"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}