\u00dcsk\u00fcdar \u00dcniversitesi NP\u0130STANBUL Hastanesi \u00c7ocuk-Ergen Psikiyatri Uzman\u0131 Dr. \u00d6\u011fr. \u00dcyesi Yakup Erdo\u011fan, \u00e7ocuklarda okul korkusu ve okula gitmeyi reddetmenin nedenleri, \u00f6zellikle ayr\u0131l\u0131k kayg\u0131s\u0131yla ili\u015fkisi, belirtileri ve sorunun nas\u0131l ele al\u0131nmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fi hakk\u0131nda a\u00e7\u0131klamalarda bulundu.<\/p>\n
Okul korkusu ile anne babadan ayr\u0131lma kayg\u0131s\u0131 birbirini besleyebiliyor!<\/strong><\/p>\n Okullar\u0131n a\u00e7\u0131lmas\u0131n\u0131n, bir\u00e7ok \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in heyecan verici bir ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7 olsa da baz\u0131 \u00e7ocuklarda yo\u011fun kayg\u0131ya d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febildi\u011fini aktaran Dr. \u00d6\u011fr. \u00dcyesi Yakup Erdo\u011fan, \u201c\u00d6zellikle okula yeni ba\u015flayan, uzun bir tatilin ard\u0131ndan s\u0131n\u0131fa d\u00f6nen veya okul de\u011fi\u015fikli\u011fi ya\u015fayan \u00e7ocuklar; evden \u00e7\u0131kmak istememe, ebeveyne s\u0131k\u0131ca tutunma, okul kap\u0131s\u0131nda a\u011flama ya da \u00e7e\u015fitli bedensel yak\u0131nmalarla okula gitmeyi reddetme davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 g\u00f6sterebiliyor.\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n Okul korkusu ile anne babadan ayr\u0131lma kayg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n birbirini besleyebildi\u011fini ifade eden Dr. \u00d6\u011fr. \u00dcyesi Erdo\u011fan, \u201c\u00c7ocuklar\u0131n verdi\u011fi sinyallerin do\u011fru okunmas\u0131 gerekir. Okul korkusu, \u00e7ocu\u011fun okula gitme d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda yo\u011fun kayg\u0131 ya\u015famas\u0131 ve bu nedenle okula gitmekten ka\u00e7\u0131nmas\u0131 ya da okulda kalmakta zorlanmas\u0131 \u015feklinde g\u00f6r\u00fclebilir. Baz\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar kayg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 do\u011frudan \u2018korkuyorum\u2019 diyerek anlatabilir. Baz\u0131lar\u0131 ise sabahlar\u0131 kar\u0131n a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131, ba\u015f a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131, mide bulant\u0131s\u0131, kusma hissi, i\u015ftahs\u0131zl\u0131k veya s\u0131k tuvalete gitme iste\u011fi ya\u015fayabilir. Bu belirtiler \u00e7o\u011fu zaman okul saatleri yakla\u015ft\u0131k\u00e7a artar, \u00e7ocuk evde kald\u0131\u011f\u0131nda hafifleyebilir. Uykuya dalmakta g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fck, gece s\u0131k uyanma, kabus g\u00f6rme, okul e\u015fyalar\u0131n\u0131 haz\u0131rlamak istememe, pazar ak\u015fam\u0131 ba\u015flayan huzursuzluk ve pazartesi sabah\u0131 yo\u011funla\u015fan bedensel \u015fikayetler de dikkate al\u0131nmal\u0131.\u201d \u015feklinde konu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n \u2018Okulu sevmiyor\u2019 demeden \u00f6nce kayg\u0131n\u0131n kayna\u011f\u0131 anla\u015f\u0131lmal\u0131!<\/strong><\/p>\n Okula gitmek istemeyen her \u00e7ocu\u011fun ayn\u0131 nedenle zorlanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na i\u015faret eden Dr. \u00d6\u011fr. \u00dcyesi Erdo\u011fan, \u201c\u00c7ocuk anne babas\u0131ndan ayr\u0131lmaktan, okulda tek ba\u015f\u0131na kalmaktan, \u00f6\u011fretmeniyle ileti\u015fim kuramamaktan, arkada\u015flar\u0131 taraf\u0131ndan d\u0131\u015flanmaktan veya akademik olarak ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z olmaktan korkabilir.\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n \u201cAkran zorbal\u0131\u011f\u0131, \u00f6\u011frenme g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc\u011f\u00fc, dikkat sorunlar\u0131, \u00f6\u011fretmen de\u011fi\u015fikli\u011fi, s\u0131n\u0131f de\u011fi\u015fikli\u011fi, ta\u015f\u0131nma, aile i\u00e7indeki \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalar, hastal\u0131k, kay\u0131p ya da travmatik bir olay da okul reddinin arkas\u0131nda bulunabilir.\u201d diyen Dr. \u00d6\u011fr. \u00dcyesi Erdo\u011fan, sorunun yaln\u0131zca okul kap\u0131s\u0131ndaki davran\u0131\u015fa bak\u0131larak a\u00e7\u0131klanamayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131, \u00a0\u00e7ocu\u011fun ev, okul ve sosyal ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131n birlikte de\u011ferlendirilmesi gerekti\u011fini vurgulad\u0131.<\/p>\n Okul, ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr hale getiriyor!<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00c7ocu\u011fun geli\u015fiminin belirli d\u00f6nemlerinde bak\u0131m veren ki\u015fiden ayr\u0131l\u0131rken huzursuzluk ya\u015famas\u0131n\u0131n do\u011fal oldu\u011funu hat\u0131rlatan Dr. \u00d6\u011fr. \u00dcyesi Erdo\u011fan, \u015funlar\u0131 s\u00f6yledi:<\/p>\n \u201cYa\u015f\u0131na ve geli\u015fim d\u00fczeyine g\u00f6re beklenenden daha yo\u011fun, uzun s\u00fcreli ve g\u00fcnl\u00fck ya\u015fam\u0131 bozan kayg\u0131n\u0131n ayr\u0131ca ele al\u0131nmas\u0131 gerekir.<\/p>\n \u00c7ocuk anne veya babas\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015f\u0131na k\u00f6t\u00fc bir \u015fey gelece\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebilir, onlardan ayr\u0131 kalmay\u0131 reddedebilir, yaln\u0131z uyumak istemeyebilir ya da s\u00fcrekli g\u00fcvence talep edebilir. Okul, ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr hale getirdi\u011fi i\u00e7in bu kayg\u0131n\u0131n en belirgin ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131 yerlerden biri olabilir. Burada temel mesele \u00e7o\u011fu zaman okulun kendisinden \u00e7ok, g\u00fcven duyulan ki\u015fiden uzak kalma d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesidir.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n Kayg\u0131n\u0131n bedendeki kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 g\u00f6z ard\u0131 edilmemeli!<\/strong><\/p>\n Okul sabahlar\u0131nda ortaya \u00e7\u0131kan bedensel \u015fikayetlerin \u2018bahane\u2019 olarak g\u00f6r\u00fclmemesi gerekti\u011fine de\u011finen Dr. \u00d6\u011fr. \u00dcyesi Erdo\u011fan, \u201cKayg\u0131 \u00e7ocuklarda fiziksel belirtilerle kendini g\u00f6sterebilir.\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n \u00c7ocu\u011fun ger\u00e7ekten kar\u0131n a\u011fr\u0131s\u0131, bulant\u0131, \u00e7arp\u0131nt\u0131 veya ba\u015f d\u00f6nmesi hissedebilece\u011fine dikkat \u00e7eken Dr. \u00d6\u011fr. \u00dcyesi Erdo\u011fan, \u201c\u00d6ncelikle t\u0131bbi bir neden bulunup bulunmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 de\u011ferlendirilmeli. Fiziksel bir hastal\u0131k saptanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ise \u015fikayetleri k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsemek yerine duygusal etkenler ara\u015ft\u0131r\u0131lmal\u0131. \u2018Hi\u00e7bir \u015feyin yok\u2019 demek \u00e7ocu\u011fu rahatlatmayabilir; tam tersine anla\u015f\u0131lmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 hissini g\u00fc\u00e7lendirebilir.\u201d diye konu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n Uzayan vedalar \u00e7ocu\u011fa \u2018burada tehlike var\u2019 mesaj\u0131 verebilir!<\/strong><\/p>\n Okul kap\u0131s\u0131nda yap\u0131lan uzun vedalar\u0131n ve tekrar tekrar geri d\u00f6nmenin ayr\u0131l\u0131k an\u0131n\u0131 daha da zorla\u015ft\u0131rabildi\u011fini dile getiren Dr. \u00d6\u011fr. \u00dcyesi Yakup Erdo\u011fan, ebeveynin sakin, kararl\u0131 ve \u00f6ng\u00f6r\u00fclebilir olmas\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7ocu\u011fa g\u00fcven verdi\u011fini s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n Dr. \u00d6\u011fr. \u00dcyesi Erdo\u011fan, \u201cVedala\u015fma k\u0131sa, s\u0131cak ve net olmal\u0131. Ebeveyn ne zaman geri gelece\u011fini \u00e7ocu\u011fun anlayabilece\u011fi bi\u00e7imde s\u00f6ylemeli ve verdi\u011fi s\u00f6z\u00fc tutmal\u0131. Gizlice uzakla\u015fmak g\u00fcveni zedeleyebilir; dakikalarca s\u00fcren vedalar ise ayr\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n tehlikeli oldu\u011fu mesaj\u0131n\u0131 verebilir. Ebeveynin kayg\u0131s\u0131 \u00e7ocu\u011fa kolayl\u0131kla yans\u0131yabildi\u011fi i\u00e7in yeti\u015fkinin kendi duygusunu d\u00fczenlemesi de \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli.\u201d a\u00e7\u0131klamas\u0131n\u0131 yapt\u0131.<\/p>\n \u2018A\u011flarsan seni burada b\u0131rak\u0131r\u0131m\u2019 gibi s\u00f6zler kayg\u0131y\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fctebilir!<\/strong><\/p>\n \u00c7ocu\u011fu tehdit etmek, utand\u0131rmak, ba\u015fka \u00e7ocuklarla k\u0131yaslamak veya korkusunu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcmsemek gibi yakla\u015f\u0131mlar\u0131n sorunu derinle\u015ftirebilece\u011fi uyar\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 yapan Dr. \u00d6\u011fr. \u00dcyesi Erdo\u011fan, \u201c\u2018Bebek gibi davranma\u2019, \u2018herkes gidiyor, bir tek sen a\u011fl\u0131yorsun\u2019 ya da \u2018a\u011flarsan seni burada b\u0131rak\u0131r\u0131m\u2019 gibi s\u00f6zler \u00e7ocu\u011fun kayg\u0131s\u0131na utan\u00e7 ve su\u00e7luluk da ekler.\u201d dedi.\u00a0<\/p>\n Bunun yerine \u00e7ocu\u011fun duygusunun kabul edilmesini, ancak okula devam etme konusunda sakin ve tutarl\u0131 duru\u015fun korunmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini belirten Dr. \u00d6\u011fr. \u00dcyesi Erdo\u011fan, \u00e7ocu\u011fun her kayg\u0131land\u0131\u011f\u0131nda evde kalmas\u0131na izin verilmesinin k\u0131sa s\u00fcreli rahatlama sa\u011flasa da ka\u00e7\u0131nma davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 peki\u015ftirebilece\u011finin alt\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7izdi.\u00a0<\/p>\n Aile ve okul ayn\u0131 dili konu\u015fmal\u0131!<\/strong><\/p>\n Okul korkusunun \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcnde \u00f6\u011fretmen, rehberlik servisi, aile ve gerekti\u011finde \u00e7ocuk ruh sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 uzman\u0131n\u0131n ortak yakla\u015f\u0131m geli\u015ftirmesinin \u00f6nemine de\u011finen Dr. \u00d6\u011fr. \u00dcyesi Erdo\u011fan, \u201c\u00c7ocu\u011fun okula geldi\u011fi ilk dakikalar\u0131n \u00f6nceden planlanmas\u0131 kayg\u0131y\u0131 azaltabilir.\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n \u00c7ocu\u011fu kimin kar\u015f\u0131layaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131n, s\u0131n\u0131fa nas\u0131l ge\u00e7ece\u011finin, zorland\u0131\u011f\u0131nda kimden destek isteyece\u011finin ve g\u00fcn\u00fcn sonunda kimin alaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131n net olmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini aktaran Dr. \u00d6\u011fr. \u00dcyesi Erdo\u011fan, \u201cEvde ba\u015fka, okulda ba\u015fka mesaj verilmesi \u00e7ocu\u011fun belirsizlik hissini art\u0131rabilir. Yeti\u015fkinlerin ortak, sakin ve tutarl\u0131 bir plan izlemesi g\u00fcven duygusunu destekler.\u201d ifadelerini kulland\u0131.<\/p>\n \u00c7ocu\u011fun davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 yaln\u0131zca inatla\u015fma olarak g\u00f6r\u00fclmemeli!\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n Okul reddinin farkl\u0131 ruhsal, geli\u015fimsel veya \u00e7evresel nedenlerle ili\u015fkili olabilece\u011fine dikkat \u00e7eken Dr. \u00d6\u011fr. \u00dcyesi Yakup Erdo\u011fan, \u201cDe\u011ferlendirmede akran zorbal\u0131\u011f\u0131, sosyal kayg\u0131, depresif belirtiler, dikkat eksikli\u011fi ve hiperaktivite bozuklu\u011fu, \u00f6\u011frenme g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fckleri, otizm spektrum \u00f6zellikleri ve aile i\u00e7indeki de\u011fi\u015fimlerin g\u00f6z \u00f6n\u00fcnde bulundurulmas\u0131 gerekir.\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n \u00c7ocu\u011fun davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 yaln\u0131zca inatla\u015fma olarak g\u00f6rmenin altta yatan nedeni ka\u00e7\u0131rmaya neden olabilece\u011fini hat\u0131rlatan Dr. \u00d6\u011fr. \u00dcyesi Erdo\u011fan s\u00f6zlerini \u015f\u00f6yle tamamlad\u0131:<\/p>\n \u201cEtkili destek, \u00f6nce \u00e7ocu\u011fun neden zorland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 do\u011fru anlamakla ba\u015flar. Kayg\u0131n\u0131n g\u00fcnler i\u00e7inde azalmamas\u0131, giderek \u015fiddetlenmesi, \u00e7ocu\u011fun d\u00fczenli bi\u00e7imde okula gidememesi, s\u0131n\u0131fta kalamamas\u0131 veya bedensel \u015fikayetlerin s\u0131kla\u015fmas\u0131 durumunda profesyonel de\u011ferlendirme al\u0131nmas\u0131 gerekir. Yo\u011fun uyku ve i\u015ftah sorunlar\u0131, belirgin i\u00e7e kapanma, \u00f6fke patlamalar\u0131, panik belirtileri, akran zorbal\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u015f\u00fcphesi ya da \u00e7ocu\u011fun kendisine zarar verme d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerinden s\u00f6z etmesi durumlar\u0131nda ise gecikmeden destek al\u0131nmal\u0131.\u00a0<\/p>\n Tedavi ve destek plan\u0131 her \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in bireysel olarak olu\u015fturulur. \u00c7ocu\u011fun ya\u015f\u0131, geli\u015fim \u00f6zellikleri, kayg\u0131n\u0131n nedeni, s\u00fcresi ve aile dinamikleri de\u011ferlendirilir. Gerekti\u011finde \u00e7ocukla psikoterapi \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131, ebeveyn dan\u0131\u015fmanl\u0131\u011f\u0131, okul d\u00fczenlemeleri ve e\u015flik eden ba\u015fka bir ruhsal sorun varsa buna y\u00f6nelik tedavi birlikte planlanabilir.\u201d<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Kaynak: (BYZHA) Beyaz Haber Ajans\u0131<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u00dcsk\u00fcdar \u00dcniversitesi NP\u0130STANBUL Hastanesi \u00c7ocuk-Ergen Psikiyatri Uzman\u0131 Dr.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":32029,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[23],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-32028","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-saglik"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/akdenizolay.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/32028","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/akdenizolay.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/akdenizolay.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/akdenizolay.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/akdenizolay.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=32028"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/akdenizolay.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/32028\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":32030,"href":"https:\/\/akdenizolay.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/32028\/revisions\/32030"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/akdenizolay.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/32029"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/akdenizolay.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=32028"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/akdenizolay.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=32028"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/akdenizolay.com.tr\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=32028"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}